Aloha Mom

50Anniversary 005

I have recently returned to my passion … performing ceremonies of life. On November 5, 2012, I had the privilege of officiating a beautiful, heartfelt wedding at the Bahia Hotel for a lovely couple, Tilly and Ryan. It was a bittersweet day. Their wedding was gorgeous, filled with personal touches, ~ including Tilly’s dog as part of the wedding party. Simply perfect. Tilly and Ryan’s wedding was the last ceremony I had booked for 2012. Somehow, I just knew that my unwanted sabbatical was about to begin.

This is the message I sent to my close friends and family on December 22, 2012:

“So live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart.

Trouble no one about their religion; respect others in their view, and demand that they respect yours. Love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life. Seek to make your life long and its purpose in the service of your people. Prepare a noble death song for the day when you go over the great divide. Always give a word or a sign of salute when meeting or passing a friend, even a stranger, when in a lonely place. Show respect to all people and grovel to none. When you arise in the morning give thanks for the food and for the joy of living. If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies only in yourself. Abuse no one and nothing, for abuse turns the wise ones to fools and robs the spirit of its vision. When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way.

Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.”


My Mom, my hero, has gone Home. She was in her bedroom, … comfortable, surrounded by our love as she took her last breath at 6:40 on December 22. She left us with a soft smile on her radiant, most beautiful face. We are devastated, to say the least. But we will live stronger and better seeing how she faced her cancer and how she died with grace and dignity. And without fear.

Her gorgeous-enormous spirit has been released from her cancer ravaged body. She is free. What joy, the many reunions in Heaven with her loved ones, and most of all, meeting Jesus!

Thank you, Mom. I do not have the words to express my deep and undying love for you. I know you know.